Men who think that women in their life are simply meant to serve their needs must have uttered such atrocious question!
Let me not belittle their thoughts, though and invite the wrath of the society! Humor me for a while please!
Yes, I agree we are selfish and sometimes pretend we are not. After all, the entire world is crazy for us and we are allowed to bask in its glory. Women in any role, be it the daughter, the sister , friend, girlfriend , wife, daughter-in-law, mother and grandmother, she has to do well. She needs to be a perfectionist in all her roles and is expected to take on further ones as well, that of a professional and excel there too. But has anyone ever thought that she is multi-tasking and burning up her resources pretty quickly?
Well let’s have a look, shall we?
Her routine
The routine may be different for the role she is in. She gets up and get ready and gets in her routine. As a student , she goes to school/college attends her classes, studies in the library and sometimes hangs around with friends. Comes back home and help out her mother in the household chores and again get back to her study routine. Occasionally she goes out with friends and watches a movie. And then back to bed and the routine continues. In this routine she is obviously pursuing her dream. She is putting her efforts to do what she wants to do and so yes she is selfish. She has no time for her family as she is either studying or spending time with her friends. But if she comes home and does all the household work too and not pursue her studies or have a nice time with her gang, again the question will come that she is so selfish and she can’t spare time for her friends.
Her Job
She is growing up now. So her priorities are towards her job. She is managing her home and along with that she is trying to do well and get promotion in her job. She does not spend as much time as before with her friends. She is not able to give as much time to her family. And if she is married and is a working mother , she needs to look after the daily house chores. But after a hard day at work and at home she wishes to unwind or pamper herself, she is thinking only of herself. She is not a good mother or a helping wife.
Her Family
She is a newly married or has been married for some time, but she is taking care of the needs of everyone at home. Sometimes looks after the individual needs too. She is hustling and juggling since morning and later when she settles down after finishing her work, she wishes to sit and concentrate few minutes to dedicate to her work , her husband calls in and says “ dear come and sit with me” but if the wife says she wants to do some of her work, she is called selfish!
What we all need to consider here is that is she being selfish or pretending to be selfish in order to have some time for herself. She does not sacrifice anything for her family neither does she compromise but she surely understands what her priorities are. It definitely is not a power struggle between a man and a woman and not about the equal rights. Equality is when all the variables are put at par. When a woman is bleeding every month and is feeling nauseous and bloated she still carries on all her duties with a smile. The man if ever physically hurt has the right to rest.
So MAN, she is not selfish! She is not pretending to be one either!
She simply knows how to prioritize her life. She loves everyone in her family and she knows how much time she needs to devote to each task in order to manage all the things. Support her, love her and understand her. She is anything but selfish. She is beauty, grace and full of selfless love. But at the end of the day she needs some time to be with her thoughts and her needs. So let her be!
A mother of two, Preeti Bhandari is a colloquial writer. She believes in simple living which reflects in her writings. As the Editor of Narisakti, she intends to use her vast experience to propel this platform to a cult status among entrepreneurial networks.
When not writing she is quilling, both with paper and thoughts.
Good Work Preeti.
Exactly, women are anything but selfish! Actually, I feel that many women are afraid to be seen as selfish persons if they take time for themselves.
…And this leads to not taking care of themselves – which is unfortunate because if they don’t take care of themselves, they can’t be their best self to anyone else either.
Wow! That’s quite insightful. Thank you for your input!
if English is not your first language, then you should not write articles in it. If you used google translate or some other translator, then this is a very bad translation. Native English speakers and writers butcher the language in literature regularly. We do not need backwards third-worlders trying to teach us anything in pidgin English when such creatures are barely 3 steps out of the jungle and have achieved no civilization of their own whatsoever. The child does not lecture the parent
Thank you for your valuable suggestions. This love makes us to aim for excellence.